05 Jul Home Funerals – Part 1
I began last time, by comparing the beginning and end of life processes in the United States. The beginning of life has a vast and rapidly growing set of natural components. The end of life process has far fewer, and they are not growing nearly as quickly. That does not take away from their importance or validity. One of first components I’d like to talk about is home funerals.
Most people are aghast (mild word) at the thought of home funerals. They fear the proximity to the body will bring death to others. Fears are based on superstitions, fears are based on our cultural refusal to accept death, but mostly fears are based on the funeral industry’s success at spreading the belief that unless it is a funeral home funeral, with embalming, with a casket purchased at the funeral home, with burial at a conventional cemetery, we are not honoring our loved ones. More importantly people are missing the opportunity to take of the final needs of their loved one. This assists greatly in easing the grieving process.
I’d like to share an interesting story. A friend of mine lives near a commercial street, and there are two funeral homes within a few blocks of his home. Recently, one went through some renovations, to make it seems more homey. They even offered a room that looked like someone’s living, and it became an offering for services. The second one, after seeing the first one’s business spike at its expense, did the same. Why do people accept pseudo home funerals at a conventional funeral parlor, but refuse to accept the real thing?
Home funerals are green, legal, and finally they are spreading. There are many great resources for learning more. I would start with these two websites Home Funeral info and The Home Funeral Directory. Also, here is a great link to watch portions of a home funeral on YouTube.
More next week, on why you should consider home funerals, and the meaning that people find in them.